Custom Wedding Ceremony

A custom wedding wedding ceremony can be a love letter to your life…  a way to honor and acknowledge where you came from, a way to fill the road that lies ahead with all the good vibes. A custom wedding ceremony is exactly that: the entire ceremony gets crafted just for you. When crafting a custom wedding ceremony, we work deeply and intimately with each other. We create a relationship, such that we all feel connected when we are standing together at the altar. I take the time to really learn about you both as individuals and within your relationship. I learn as much as I can about your story, so that your custom wedding ceremony brings your journey to life. I tell the story of how you got to be where you are as a couple. And of course, I guide you and welcome you across the threshold of marriage. I really want you to feel that sense of having marked this rite of passage in an authentic and honest way. Staying true to who you are and what you desire is the most important thing.

Custom Wedding Ceremony

What’s the process?

First, we need to connect, on the phone, video chat, or in person. I need to hear your vision, hopes, and dreams, you need to hear about who I am and how I work, and we can begin to explore if I am a fit for your wedding ceremony.  You’ll have a deeper understanding of how I create ceremonies, and by the end of our conversation, you should have a good idea whether or not you want to work with me.

If you decide to work with me as for a custom ceremony, we’ll sign an agreement, and you’ll submit a deposit to secure your date. Once we get the contract stuff out of the way, the real creative work begins.  We’ll start by looking at questions and stories such as:

  • How did you find one another and fall in love?
  • Your first date/first kiss/the first realization you were in love…
  • What feelings do you want to evoke with this wedding ceremony?
  • What makes you and your partner special?
  • What are the spiritual and/or intellectual touchstones in your lives?
  • How can we honor your story, your family, your history?
  • Why are you choosing to marry?

After I hear all about you and your love story, I can craft your ceremony.  If you are writing your own vows, I will send you resources, and if you are looking to have friends and family do readings, I can send you some ideas.  We’ll chat as often as necessary. I am available for a rehearsal, if you choose to have one.  On the day of your wedding, I’ll arrive to the ceremony early, making sure that everything is in place for your nuptials.  At the altar, I’ll be a chill, grounded presence for you, so that you too can be as present and grounded as possible.

It is truly a profound privilege to officiate a wedding, and I am honored that you are considering me for your custom wedding ceremony. Take a look at some more thoughts on weddings, or about my elopement offerings. Please reach out if you would like to know more.

 

Ceremonial Musings

Rituals, anthropologists will tell us, are about transformation. The rituals we use for marriage, baptism or inaugurating a president are as elaborate as they are because we associate the ritual with a major life passage, the crossing of a critical threshold, or in other words, with transformation. -Abraham Verghese