Custom Wedding Ceremony
A custom wedding ceremony can be a love letter to your life — a way to honor and acknowledge where you came from, and a way to fill the road that lies ahead with all the good vibes.
When creating a custom wedding ceremony, we work deeply and intimately with each other. We create a relationship, such that we all feel connected when we are standing together at the altar. I take the time to really learn about you both as individuals and within your relationship. I learn as much as I can about your story, so that your wedding ceremony brings your journey to life.
I tell the story of how you got to be where you are as a couple. I guide and welcome you across the threshold of marriage. And I really want you to feel that sense of having marked this rite of passage in an authentic and honest way. Staying true to who you are and what you desire is the most important thing.
What Makes It Custom?
A custom ceremony is for couples who want more than a simple framework or pre-written ceremony.
It is for those who want the ceremony to feel like a true reflection of who they are: their story, their values, their humor, their depth, their reasons for choosing marriage, and the particular shape of love they have built together.
This process gives us the time and space to create something deeply personal, thoughtful, and alive. The ceremony does not just “cover the bases.” It becomes its own meaningful part of the day.
What’s the Process?
First, we need to connect — on the phone, by video chat, or in person. I need to hear your vision, hopes, and dreams. You need to hear about who I am and how I work. And together, we begin to explore whether I am the right fit for your wedding ceremony.
By the end of that conversation, you should have a much clearer sense of how I create ceremonies, and whether you want to work together.
If you decide to move forward with a custom ceremony, we will sign an agreement and you will submit a deposit to secure your date. Once the contract pieces are out of the way, the real creative work begins.
Questions We Explore
We start looking at stories and questions such as:
How did you find one another and fall in love?
Your first date, first kiss, the first realization that you were in love…
What feelings do you want to evoke with this wedding ceremony?
What makes you and your partner special?
What are the spiritual and/or intellectual touchstones in your lives?
How can we honor your story, your family, your history?
Why are you choosing to marry?
These kinds of questions help me understand not just the facts of your relationship, but the deeper shape of it… what matters to you, what you are really saying yes to, and how the ceremony can reflect that.
Creating the Ceremony
After I hear all about you and your love story, I craft your ceremony.
If you are writing your own vows, I will send you resources. If you are looking to have friends or family do readings, I can send ideas for that too. We will talk as often as necessary throughout the process.
If you choose to have a rehearsal, I am available for that as well.
On the day of your wedding, I arrive early, making sure everything is in place for your nuptials. At the altar, I am a chill, grounded presence for you, so that you too can be as present and grounded as possible.
Why I Love This Work
It is truly a profound privilege to officiate a wedding.
I do not take lightly the fact that I get to stand with people at a real threshold in their lives. I love creating ceremonies that feel honest, meaningful, beautiful, and deeply true to the people at the center of them. I love helping couples feel connected — to each other, to their people, and to the moment itself.
And yes, I love it when the ceremony becomes the part of the wedding people remember.
Get in Touch
If this sounds like the kind of ceremony process you are looking for, please reach out. I would be glad to hear more about your wedding, your vision, and what you hope your ceremony will feel like.
You can also take a look at more thoughts on weddings, explore my elopement offerings, or check out what folks have said about their experience working with me.
And if the language of threshold, transition, and deeper attention resonates beyond the wedding day itself, I also offer 1:1 depth coaching.